Know What To Expect
Basically, you must allow time for these activities. Chinese guests fully expect this sort of treatment, so there is no reason for your Chinese host to think you expect anything less. The best defense might be to simply tell your host that you need a ‘night in’ when you know nothing in particular has been planned for the evening.
And When It’s Your Turn…
Remember, while you may feel overwhelmed and/or embarrassed by all the fuss, your counterparts will expect similar treatment from you when it is your turn to play host.